Author: Melissa Toro

  • The Patriarchal Blueprint: How Gendered Hierarchies Sustain Modern Crises

    Patriarchy is not an artifact of the past. It is a living blueprint that organizes how societies define authority, distribute power, and manage conflict. Its influence shapes political preferences, economic decisions, cultural norms, and even who is considered a legitimate leader.

    Misogyny, in this structure, is not a personal flaw. It’s the machinery that dictates who rises and who suffocates, and make no mistake: misogyny and patriarchy are finished. Their time is over. The world has rejected them, their lies are exposed, and they’re crumbling, powerless, and rotten at the core. Any system built on their bones is dying with them.

    This framework helps explain a wide range of contemporary problems. It explains the appeal of political leaders whose authority rests on dominance rather than competence. It explains the cultural valorization of physical aggression in spaces like MMA. It clarifies why punitive policies such as ICE raids gain traction even when they weaken the economy. And it explains why internalized misogyny among women helped elect a leader like Donald Trump, whose political brand was built on a performance of masculine dominance.

    The Structure of Patriarchal Power

    Patriarchal power rewards behaviors that align with a narrow vision of masculinity. Assertiveness is celebrated. Aggression is interpreted as strength. Emotional restraint is framed as necessary for serious decision making. Behaviors coded as feminine are relegated to the margins.

    This structure shapes public preferences. Leaders who display dominance are perceived as strong even when their actions undermine democratic stability. Trump’s rise is a direct example. His dismissive comments about women, public displays of hostility, and constant projection of strength did not alienate key supporters. Instead, those traits aligned with a cultural script that treats masculine aggression as evidence of authority, even though it is clearly signs of narcissism, insecurity, and rage.

    Combat Culture and the Reinforcement of Dominance

    While MMA as a sport demands skill and discipline, parts of its surrounding culture elevate a performance of manhood grounded in domination. Physical superiority becomes a moral currency. Emotional detachment becomes the proof of seriousness. For many boys and men raised within patriarchal expectations, these spaces validate the belief that dominance is essential to identity.

    This cycle reinforces itself. The more dominance is celebrated, the more it becomes the benchmark by which success is judged. Cultural spaces that glorify aggression feed the same values that drive support for aggressive political figures.

    Internalized Misogyny and Women’s Support for Patriarchal Leaders

    Patriarchy does not survive because men maintain it alone. Women internalize the same structures. Research shows that both hostile sexism and benevolent sexism predicted support for Trump among women. In several studies, the levels of implicit bias were as strong or stronger among women than men (Winter 2017, Setzler and Yanus 2018, Glick and Fiske 2015). This internalized misogyny did not manifest as self hatred. It showed up as distrust of ambitious women, comfort with gender hierarchy, and preference for leaders who fit traditional masculine norms. Here we are in 2025, staring at a president who was never legitimately elected—he bragged that Elon Musk helped rig the vote. Musk, an open misogynist and fascist, aided him, proving that power and cruelty are now openly traded commodities. In his toxic arrogance, the president says it all out loud, because he knows he can. He can stage insurrections, shred the Constitution, abuse power, and annihilate the last vestiges of empathy in the White House—all to erect a gilded ballroom for trillionaires, dictators, and the untouchable elite. And while they dine and scheme, women, men, and children starve. This isn’t politics. This is a declaration: the patriarchy is desperate, exposed, and killing the people it claims to lead.

    Race also plays a significant role. Among white women, racial resentment was often a stronger predictor of Trump support than gender attitudes. Patriarchy intersects with whiteness to create a model of protection, order, and status that some women view as stabilizing even when it works against their own interests.

    In short, patriarchal values are not upheld by men alone. They are upheld by socialization, identity, and generational repetition.

    Historical Context and the Myth of Inevitability

    Patriarchal systems appear natural only because they are familiar. They dominate recorded history, but they are not universal. Matriarchal and matrilineal societies demonstrate that alternatives exist. The Mosuo of China remain a key example. Property passes through maternal lines. Households are centered around women. Decision making is communal rather than hierarchical. Gender does not determine legitimacy.

    These societies reveal that patriarchy is not human destiny. It is a political and economic design.

    How Patriarchal Structures Distort the Economy

    Economic systems do not operate independently from cultural norms. Patriarchy shapes who has access to economic mobility and who is considered competent. It relegates women to undervalued labor, restricts men to narrow career paths, and slows innovation by prioritizing hierarchy over collaboration.

    When leaders embrace dominance as an organizing principle, economic policy becomes reactionary. Instead of long-term planning, decision makers rely on punitive strategies that project control but fail to produce stability.

    This logic is visible in contemporary immigration enforcement.

    Enforcement Politics and Economic Fallout

    ICE raids are a clear example of patriarchal governance. They showcase state power through force. But they degrade the economy. Raids remove workers from agriculture, construction, caregiving, and service industries where labor shortages are already severe. They disrupt supply chains, weaken local businesses, and destabilize entire communities.

    Fear suppresses spending. Families withdraw from public life. Formal labor markets shrink while informal economies grow. None of this contributes to stability or growth. Yet the politics of dominance persist because they align with cultural expectations about strength.

    This is patriarchy in practice: the preference for coercion even when it undermines economic health.

    The Hidden Cost: Patriarchy’s Damage to Men

    Patriarchy most definitively harms women, but it also creates deep vulnerabilities for men. It defines masculinity through performance, not humanity. It tells men they must be providers even when the labor market no longer supports that role. It discourages emotional expression and help-seeking. It punishes men who deviate from traditional roles.

    The effects are visible:

    • higher suicide rates among men
    • higher rates of addiction
    • higher levels of incarceration
    • lower likelihood of seeking mental health care
    • social stigma around entering stable but “feminized” professions

    Patriarchal norms also make men more susceptible to political narratives rooted in aggression and fear. Leaders who embody dominance feel familiar and reassuring. They affirm the script men were taught to follow, even when those leaders pursue policies that harm the economy and limit men’s options.

    The Structural Lesson

    Patriarchy destabilizes society by tying legitimacy to dominance. It rewards aggression over empathy. It encourages punitive politics that weaken economic foundations. It pressures men and women into roles that limit autonomy and damage well-being.

    Understanding misogyny as a structural force rather than a personal failing shifts the conversation. The goal is not to target individuals but to redesign the systems that determine what leadership looks like, how economies function, and whose voices carry weight.

    A world beyond the patriarchal blueprint is not only more just. It is more stable, more productive, and more humane.

  • Colombia Real Estate Guide for U.S. Citizens: Legal Requirements & Buyer Checklist

    1. COLOMBIA PROPERTY PURCHASE CHECKLIST (Straightforward + Safe)

    Before You Make an Offer

    • ☐ Pull Certificado de Tradición y Libertad (title & lien history)
    • ☐ Confirm seller identity with Cédula
    • ☐ Verify Catastro records (property taxes + cadastral info)
    • ☐ Confirm no outstanding:
      • ☐ Predial tax
      • ☐ Service bills
      • ☐ HOA/admin fees
    • ☐ Check occupancy status (no hidden tenants)

    Offer & Contract

    • ☐ Negotiate price, terms, timelines
    • ☐ Draft Promesa de Compraventa
    • ☐ Add penalty clause (usually 10%)
    • ☐ Determine who holds deposit (preferably fiduciaria)

    Financial Requirements

    • ☐ If foreign money: file Formulario 4 with Banco de la República
    • ☐ Use a Colombian bank or fiduciary service for clean transfer
    • ☐ Keep FX paperwork — you’ll need it to take profits out of the country

    Pre-Closing

    • ☐ Get updated Certificado (things change overnight here)
    • ☐ Confirm tax clearance again
    • ☐ Prepare for notary fees + registration costs (1.5–2%)

    Closing

    • ☐ Sign Escritura Pública at Notaría
    • ☐ Pay balance
    • ☐ Collect certified copies of deed

    Post-Closing

    • ☐ Follow up on Registro (this is your true ownership)
    • ☐ Update Catastro records
    • ☐ Transfer utilities
    • ☐ Transfer HOA
    • ☐ Insure property

    2. FULL GUIDE: HOW BUYING PROPERTY IN COLOMBIA ACTUALLY WORKS

    STEP 1 — Title Investigation

    This is the make-or-break step.
    You’re looking for:

    • Embargoes
    • Mortgages
    • Court claims
    • Liens
    • Illegal subdivisions
    • Pending inheritance claims

    Colombia protects buyers if you check the registry — if you don’t, you’re on your own.


    STEP 2 — Seller Verification

    You confirm:

    • Seller is the legal owner
    • No other heirs/partners have rights
    • Property boundaries match Catastro
    • No unresolved debts

    Many properties here are inherited without proper paperwork. This kills deals.


    STEP 3 — Promesa de Compraventa

    Think of this like a binding Option + PSA combined.

    It includes:

    • Full legal description
    • Price
    • Deposit amount
    • Payment timeline
    • Closing date
    • Penalty clause (usually 10% of purchase price)

    Once signed, both parties are locked in unless they’re willing to lose money.


    STEP 4 — Deposit

    Deposits aren’t held by a title company (those don’t exist the same way here).
    Safer options:

    • Fiduciaria (trust company)
    • Attorney
    • Notary-managed escrow (rare but possible)

    STEP 5 — Foreign Investor Registration

    This is where U.S. buyers often get burned.

    If you want to pull your money back out or prove foreign investment status for visas, you must register the incoming funds using:

    👉 Formulario 4 (Registro de Inversión Extranjera)

    Without it, you can buy — but you cannot repatriate.


    STEP 6 — Notary Closing

    Notaries are powerful in Colombia; they function like attorney + title office.

    You sign the Escritura Pública listing:

    • Buyer
    • Seller
    • Price
    • Terms
    • Legal description

    Notary collects:

    • Taxes
    • Transfer fees
    • A portion of recording fees

    STEP 7 — Registro

    The deed goes to the Oficina de Registro.
    This is the only moment where you truly become the legal owner.

    Once they enter it into the system, you are untouchable.


    STEP 8 — Catastro & Taxes

    Final step is updating:

    • Catastro
    • Predial
    • Utilities
    • HOA

    Congrats, you own it.

  • What Having It All Means to Me

    Daily writing prompt
    What does “having it all” mean to you? Is it attainable?

    “Having it all isn’t about having everything—it’s about having peace, purpose, and the freedom to create without losing my empathy or integrity. I dream not just for myself, but for a world that doesn’t yet exist—and I build anyway.”

    Having it all means living in alignment—with my work, my values, and the world around me. It’s building a life where I work for myself, free from toxic power structures, surrounded instead by empathy, creativity, and purpose. It’s financial stability without selling my peace, and leadership that begins with listening and ends in uplifting others.

    It’s waking up with a warm cup of coffee or tea, feeling safe—knowing the world is not burning, that people have enough, and that suffering is not the background noise of life. As an empath, I carry the weight of the world in my chest. So “having it all” isn’t just personal success—it’s knowing I’m contributing to something bigger than myself, helping to create a world I’ve always dreamed of, even if it doesn’t yet exist.

    I crave balance, structure, and freedom in equal measure—because I know that within those three, I can build something lasting. Something true. Something that honors my authenticity and the collective healing I want to be part of.

    Peace, purpose, and integrity—these are my non-negotiables. And having it all means never having to leave them behind.

  • Breaking free as a borderless boss—unapologetically ambitious, creatively unbound, and rooted in purpose—means releasing yourself from the grip of external validation.

    🔥 1. Recognize the Cost of Approval Addiction

    Every time you delay a vision because of fear—fear of being judged, misunderstood, or not taken seriously—you rob your future self. Ask:

    • Is their opinion building my legacy?
    • Are they even qualified to critique this vision?

    Borderless bosses don’t wait for permission. They move, then adjust.


    💡 2. Treat Every Idea Like a Prototype

    You’re not married to the first version of anything. Start treating your ideas like experiments, not identities. That means:

    • You can launch imperfectly.
    • You can change course.
    • You can evolve without apology.

    Criticism becomes data—not a death sentence.


    🧠 3. Curate, Don’t Crowdsource

    You don’t need to share your ideas with everyone. Some people see with limits.

    • Protect the seed. Only invite feedback from builders, not spectators.
    • Build a circle that reflects where you’re going, not just where you’ve been.

    Your dream doesn’t need a democracy—it needs direction.


    🔊 4. Train Your Nervous System for Boldness

    Fear of judgment often lives in the body, not just the mind. Practice:

    • Micro-bravery: Share a bold thought online. Say no. Speak up in meetings.
    • Somatic grounding: Deep breaths, physical movement, affirming touch (hand over heart)—to remind yourself you’re safe, even if someone disagrees.

    🌍 5. Reframe Your Role as a Leader

    You’re not here to be liked. You’re here to lead, to disrupt, to liberate—yourself and others.

    • Radical ideas always trigger discomfort.
    • If no one’s raising an eyebrow, you’re probably playing it too safe.

    You want to be a conversation starter, not a consensus chaser.


    ✨ Your Affirmation:

    “I release the need for validation. My vision is divine, and I trust its timing. I don’t shrink—I expand.”

  • Beyond the Obstacle

    Beyond the Obstacle

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  • Growth Unlocked

    Growth Unlocked

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  • Collaboration Magic

    Collaboration Magic

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  • Teamwork Triumphs

    Teamwork Triumphs

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  • Adaptive Advantage

    Adaptive Advantage

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